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  Tue, 06 Nov 2007 07:00:00 +0100
  • Making Money Blogging and Ethics - Why Don\
    I've taken a lot of flak over the years for raising the issue of ethics and making money blogging. I'm sorry if I've come across a little strong in this post, but this nonsense really does make me angry...
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  • The Great Pagerank Googlebomb: The Aftermath
    Unless you have been living with your head in the sand you must have heard by now about Google's pagerank shakeup that has made b-listers out of the blogosphere's former royal families. So now that the dust has settled and we've had a moment to catch our collective breath it's time to reflect on what it all means...
  Tue, 30 Oct 2007 06:00:00 +0100
  • The Great Link Bitch Slap
    Yesterday's a-listers are now on the b-list. I'm the guy who broke the story about Google's Pagerank going wonky last Saturday. In fact it was the most talked about story of the week. Everyone from Darren Rowse, Andy Beard to Duncan Riley at TechCrunch wrote about it (and I know they read me). But you know what? None of them even bothered to link to the Bloke. Not to worry though. I take solace in the fact that my little post was the most dugg story on the topic, and that my pagerank is now higher than many of the former a-list snobs out there...
  • Make the Most of Blogging Communities
    In this post I'm going to talk about what I have been doing and conclude with how it ultimately paid-off. These tips mostly apply to those new to blogging but seasoned bloggers can learn a thing or two as well...
  Thu, 25 Oct 2007 07:00:00 +0200
  • How To Hijack Another Blogger\
    Ultimately the blog hijacker might even get a higher ranking with the SERPS, so in effect they have hijacked the original writer's traffic without writing any content themselves. Or in other words the hijacker is piggy-backing off the intellectual property of another blogger...
  Wed, 24 Oct 2007 07:00:00 +0200
  • 4 Reasons Why I\
    No, I wasn't one of the ten thousand or more blogs that they recently removed. At least they consider me worthy of their widget, and although I'm flattered I have unfortunately decided that it must go from my sidebar for the following reasons...
  Wed, 26 Jul 2006 23:17:05 +0200
Extend special mediation law to cover tsunami disputes ...
Columbo Daily News
The Legal Aid Commission (LAC) has requested Justice and Judicial Reform Minister John Seneviratne, to consider extending Mediation (special categories disputes ...

Rice Arrives in Israel, Saying 'Hard Decisions' Must Be Made
New York Times Sun, 06 Feb 2005 12:06 PM PST
JERUSALEM, Feb. 6 - Condoleezza Rice, arrived in Israel today on her first trip to the Middle East as secretary of state and immediately urged the Israelis to take the "hard decisions" required for peace with the new Palestinian president, Mahmoud Abbas.

Iran does not need mediator, US should change its approach: FM ...
Tehran Times - Tehran,Iran
TEHRAN --- Foreign Ministry spokesman Hamid Reza Asefi said here on Sunday that Iran does not need any mediator in its dealings with the United States. ...

Australia Mediating US-Iran Nuclear Stand-Off
Reuters - USA
CANBERRA (Reuters) - Australia had become a mediator in a nuclear stand-off between Iran and the United States, Prime Minister John Howard said on Sunday, in a ...

Latham hires Herbies star to push global dispute resolution
The Lawyer - London,UK
... Latham's London head David Miles said the appointment underlined the firm's ongoing push into international dispute resolution in London and Europe. ...

American Arbitration Association Hosts Lecture to Commemorate the ...
Yahoo News (press release) - USA
... This landmark legislation has set the standard for responsible use of arbitration and has been a vanguard for the entire alternative dispute resolution movement ...

LAW FIRM NEWS - DLA Piper Rudnick names its 2005 new partners Lawfuel (press release) - New Zealand
... on complex business disputes in state and federal courts, as well as before the American Arbitration Association and other alternative dispute resolution forums ...

Strike at B.C. Place Stadium threatens to sink international boat show
Canadian Press via Yahoo! News Sun, 06 Feb 2005 3:08 PM PST
VANCOUVER (CP) - A labour dispute at B.C. Place Stadium is threatening to sink western Canada's largest boat trade show this week.

Pakistan firm on Kashmir but with 'slight change':
New Kerala Sat, 05 Feb 2005 11:34 PM PST
[World News]: Islamabad, Feb 5 : Pakistan is firmly committed to an amicable resolution of the Jammu and Kashmir dispute with India and is willing to be "flexible" if New Delhi reciprocates, President Pervez Musharraf said Saturday.

Both sides of SLSO must find way to come together
The St. Louis Post-Dispatch - St. Louis,MO,USA
... A Republican state senator made inquiries into doing mediation, but, says Adams, "never made a formal offer." Mayor Francis Slay has not responded to a Post ...

Joseph P. Folger in the Twin Cities on February 11th & 12th! Co-Author of "The Promise of Mediation" to Speak
PR Web Sun, 06 Feb 2005 0:10 AM PST
Dr. Joseph P. Folger, co-creator of the transformative model of mediation will appear in the Twin Cities on February 11th and 12th, 2005. Dr. Folger co-founded the most important movement in the field of Alternative Dispute Resolution "ADR". The original version of the book he co-authored, The Promise of Mediation, articulated the potential of mediation to create profound peace and growth, beyond

Mediation talks fail between GM, Fiat
Detroit News Sat, 05 Feb 2005 11:17 PM PST
Italian firm may still force No. 1 automaker to buy its ailing car unit. ROME -- Fiat SpA said Wednesday it failed to settle with General Motors Corp. over an option to force the U.S. giant to buy its ailing auto unit, raising the prospect of a legal battle and sending Fiat's shares tumbling.

System offers a last chance
The Sacramento Bee Sun, 06 Feb 2005 3:59 AM PST
Contracts let city workers in some disciplinary cases keep their jobs, with caveats. Revelations of misconduct in the Sacramento Fire Department have shaken the community: drinking on duty, cruising bars, giving joy rides to women and attending a Porn Star Costume Ball.

  Thu, 02 Mar 2006 00:38:33 +0100
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  Tue, 07 Nov 2006 10:24:59 +0100
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  Fri, 12 Jan 2007 03:58:04 +0100
For some firms blogging has become a valuable and trusted networking tool for professional services firm. The old adages of the FLEE acronym -- find (a potential client), listen (to their needs), and then engage and empower them, are the very principles a blog are built upon. According to Susan Ward, director of marketing, and William Ward, partner, both of New Jersey's Carlin & Ward LLC:
They've been very happy with the return on the initial investment -- about $1,700 in startup costs and annual maintainance fees of $2,400. He's become a resource to reporters, who often automatically go online in search of sources for articles, and he has about 200 regular subscribers to an automatic e-mail that's sent out when he posts a new entry.
You can read more about it at WebCPA.

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  Sat, 08 Jul 2006 11:05:02 +0200
This is from Blog Bloke:

I suppose it was only a matter of time. Bosses are considering putting specific provisions in employment contracts that could regulate what you put in your private blog or even prevent you from blogging at all, according to a new book.
"Employers are now considering including specific blogging provisions in employment contracts," the authors write in Uses of Blogs, a book to be published later this year.

"Some employers have even taken the steps to ensure that employment contracts disallow employees from blogging at all."
You can read more about it at ABC News Online.
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  Mon, 12 Dec 2005 00:47:55 +0100
The first ever legal precedent was the term 'lawyer', originally derived from the old english word 'liar'.

But somewhere in the evolution of jurisprudence it got lost in the translation. Ba-da-bing!

Eventually the word was to become synonymous with the word "politician."

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  Thu, 02 Mar 2006 00:11:41 +0100

Judge considering future of program

Boone Circuit Judge Tony Frohlich plans one more round of his criminal mediation docket next spring, before deciding whether the unique experiment will become a permanent part of the court system.

  Tue, 10 Jan 2006 10:59:00 +0100
Geraldo Rivera Drops Lawsuit Against Co-op Board

Geraldo Rivera has made up with the co-op board at the Edgewater housing development where he lives. Rivera was elected to the co-op board last fall and now sits on its dispute mediation committee.

  Tue, 15 Nov 2005 03:24:31 +0100

Can Terrorism Defeat Terrorism?

You can't beat terrorism with shallow words of bravado or military reprisal. There, I've said it so it all you war mongers out there can throw your daggers if you wish because I'm ready and you cannot shake my resolve.

Did that statement deter you? I think I've made my point but let me explain.

Today we woke up to the shocking news of four bombs set off by terrorists in London. In my case I just happened to be watching TV and caught it live on the news. I watched in horror as I saw a bus ripped open like a tin can, and reports of mayhem as images of injured people hobbling around looking for help flashed before my eyes.

My thoughts immediately flashed back to 9/11 of buildings falling down and people leaping out of windows to their certain deaths on the pavement below.

What made it even more surreal was that just minutes earlier I had watched an English movie about terrorists setting off a dirty bomb in London. Even more amazing was the response the terrorist made during interrogation.

When the Brit interrogator said there will be a military response from England and more people will die, the terrorist smiled and said "we are counting on your reprisal. Our attack divides you and makes you weaker. Your reprisal only unites us and makes us stronger".

Are those the mere words of somebody that we can smugly write of as a lunatic? Label them in the same mold as a Jeffrey Dahmer with a religious twist? Or is it a cunning and intelligent adversary whom we cannot understand?

SUN TZU's "the Art of War" refers to it as knowing thy enemy, and it appears that they know us even better than we know ourselves. At this point we don't know yet for certain who is responsible. Nevertheless, terrorists share commonality in their roots, methods and goals, and perceived wrongs, hatred, revenge and religious fervor are just some of them.

Question: Has military action in Afghanistan or Iraq changed anything since then? Today we found out the hard way that it hasn't. Even if it wasn't Al Qaeda we can still see the mayhem their agents continue to cause in the middle east. So how long must we suffer until we get the point?

You can't rely on smarter bombs, cameras on every corner, homeland security or undercover operatives to catch all of these fanatics. They have the advantage. They are small in numbers and can blend in the general populace.

We are not dealing with a single army that can be nuked into oblivion in one final apocalyptic blast. They exist in small cancerous cells that are all over the world, and odds are some of them are going to slip through. A mathematician who understands the laws of probability will tell you that.

The only winners in this game are CNN and their ilk whose ratings go through the roof when these tragedies happen. Have you ever noticed they present the news like it was another Schwarzenegger blockbuster action movie? But this isn't a movie folks. It's real and hardcore.

When I saw Tony Blair make his statement at the G8 conference I couldn't help but get the feeling his words were hollow. He was visibly shaken and when he spoke words of bravado about this terrorist attack not shaking his resolve, it seemed rather shallow and almost ludicrous.

Let's look at the balance sheet. A terrorist slaps on a backpack with a bomb in it and takes a ride on a bus. They are blown to smithereens and don't feel a thing and happily go off to eternity in a drunken orgy. Their families are well taken care of by the brotherhood and are proud of their sacrifice.

Whereas on the other side of the equation dozens of people suffer horrific injuries and are crippled for life either physically or emotionally. Some even die and families are shattered. Who wins?

We respond and kill many more of them with our smart bombs including women and children in collateral damage. They say "see, look at those terrorist Yanks and Brits", and a young orphan grows up to become another martyr to continue the cycle.

Take a look at Israel and Palestine and you will see there will be no peace until someone has the courage to stop the cycle. It can't be about an eye for an eye.

Will we ever learn from history? "Violence only begets more violence" and the only empire that was able to satisfactorily quell terrorists were the Romans. And why were they successful? Because they were more brutal than the terrorists. Smart bombs just won't cut it.

Ironically, they also consider it an act of terrorism. The terrorists justify their actions by propagandizing collateral damage from these so-called "smart" bombs". Just a little more high-tech. Tit for tat.

Is that an exaggeration? Perhaps. But it's not the point. So long as the general populace buys into it that is all that matters. It is a war of the mind and hearts of the people, and that is far more powerful than any bomb that can ever be created.

Makes you think doesn't it? I hope so. It is called shifting our paradigms and I recommend Stephen Covey's work.

Do you want to live in a world of fear and loathing? Is that the legacy you want for your kids? I hope not because neither do I.

So go ahead. Call me a liberal, socialist, left-wingnut, pinko, peacenik, whatever. Throw your daggers and smart bombs. But remember my family is more powerful than yours and will avenge me. They have a long memory so you had better watch your back because you never know when your number will be up.

Believe it or not I have personally mediated a dispute between two Iranian men who said those exact words. Needless to say, when we were finished everyone was still alive.

To believe that the 'enemy' is out to destroy us merely because of differing ideology is naive and simplistic. Sounds a lot like the old Vietnam/Soviet line doesn't it? Communism vs. democracy ($$$ capitalism). Good vs. evil (who has the moral high ground). Justice for the perpetrators (you hit me first). Or could it really be big business interests vs. religious fervor?

I can assure you the notion that we can defeat terrorism with perceived terrorism will only backfire on us. Just ask Richard the Lion Hearted.

They see no difference between between a low-tech human bomber and a "smart bomb" let fly from an F-18. We may disagree with that comparison but nevertheless that is the way they "perceive" it, and that is the bottom line.

Desperate actions by desperate people. Does that justify anything? Of course not. But the sooner we begin to understand the way the other side thinks the better. And that is how we move from our entrenched positions, to mutual understanding, to concensus.

There is always a reasonable answer to any dispute/war, and eventually both sides will come to that realization. But that can only be accomplished by sitting down face to face. And that can be difficult when both sides remain convinced they have God and Right on their side. Let's just hope that it will happen soon enough before more innocent people have to die.

What's the answer? Yes, I am appalled and my immediate reaction is to bomb the sh__ out of them. Track down the perpetrators and bring them to justice. But remember they also consider our leaders to be criminals, and acting like texas rangers with both guns blazing and creating more martyrs is not the answer.

The point is you cannot defeat an enemy who is full of hate and willing to die for an ideal in the belief that they will be rewarded in a better afterlife. You can only defeat an idea with another idea - not with guns and bombs. That is how the Soviet Union fell. Not by bombs but with the realization that communism just wasn't working.

The mediator in me says let's find a win/win so we can all coexist in peace. We need to take a look at the bigger picture. Just what are our interests in the middle east anyway? And what are the interests of those who live there? At least that is a place to start.

Have I made my point? Sounds too idealistic for you? Too weak? Too compromising? Then what are the alternatives?

  Thu, 13 Oct 2005 03:29:58 +0200

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  Fri, 18 Feb 2005 02:27:30 +0100

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  Fri, 20 May 2005 04:27:37 +0200

Can Mediation Bring Peace to Israel?

As we ponder what 2005 will bring, we can't help but reflect on the Middle East and ask if an enduring peace is possible in that land. The Philadephia Enquirer muses:
"Despite the challenges that lie ahead, the death of Arafat, coupled with Israel's shift regarding Gaza, have created some diplomatic wiggle room that could help revive the moribund peace process.

Initial steps will be taken in London in the early part of the new year at an international conference on Palestinian reform. Thereafter, it will be up to the parties to put the process back on track with the guidance of European and American mediation.

"There is no reason for euphoria - another round of warfare could break out before long," Haaretz columnist Ari Shavit observed.

"Nevertheless... 2005 is poised to be a year of truth. A year of real deeds. A year in which Israel finally takes its fate in hand... . A year in which it will be necessary to translate the political decisions of 2004 into a durable reality."
It is this author's belief that mediation is the ONLY way to resolve any conflict. War never provides a lasting peace because eventually the losing side will seek reprisal for its perceived injustices. The prophetic words "violence begets violence" ring just as loud today as when they were uttered more than 2000 years ago.

It remains to be seen if mediation can solve the Middle East standoff. Mediation will only be successful when BOTH sides have had enough blood on their hands and are willing to work together to find a solution that works for both sides. And even if a practical solution is reached, then the healing must begin for future generations.

The point that I'm trying to make is there is in fact a solution to be found out there. But that is the easy part, for to make it work over the long term the spirit has to be willing. Let us hope the Palestinians and Israel have reached that point in the evolution of their respective cultures.

  Sat, 01 Jan 2005 23:49:10 +0100

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2005!

May it be heralded with Peace, Tolerance and Understanding. All the best from Advocare.

  Wed, 29 Dec 2004 05:36:08 +0100

Is it Really Christmas Already?

We apologize for not posting recently. Blame it in the holidays.

It's time to start winding down the year and get into the holiday spirit. As we look forward to a new year it is also a time for reflection, and we would like to thank you - our loyal readers for all your support. This site would be nothing without you, and rest assured we will continue to do our darndest to be your best resource for conflict resolution on the net.

Wishing you a sincere Merry Christmas to All, and to All a Good Night!

  Fri, 17 Dec 2004 20:25:28 +0100

Walk a Mile in My Shoes

Some people may call it shifting paradigms, but in the Mediation profession we call it roll reversing. Here is an interesting article by Craig Lafargue about how in a dispute we can become entrenched in our positions, and that by reversing the respective roles a logjam can be broken. He goes on to say:

"I then asked them to continue the negotiation, but in their new roles as the other person. They told me I was nuts; I asked them to humor me, reminding them of the penalty and my fees. They agreed to try. At first, they were a bit stilted in their role play. However, after time they got into it, and arguing quite coherently and cogently their opponent's view. After about 15 minutes, I asked them to stop and discuss what they had learned.

Each party felt a greater degree of understanding regarding the other's position. They went beyond the "active listening" approach; indeed they became that person for a small period of time. And did quite well in assuming their "alter-ego." I then asked them to resume their negations from their own self. And something remarkable occurred. The stalemate was broken, and the two parties moved into problem solving. There was still much to be discussed and developed. However, the emotional intransigence which prevented shared reality necessary to work jointly on a problem that affects both parties was now removed."
Role reversing is a common technique that is used to train Mediators in Conflict Resolution, but as we see it can also be useful during an actual mediation.

  Fri, 17 Dec 2004 01:32:00 +0100

Often I'm asked What is Mediation and Why is it Better

The short answer is Mediation is a form of Alternative Dispute Resolution (also known as ADR or Conflict Resolution) that is offered as an alternative to the traditional, adversarial/litigation process.

Mediation is an Informal Process

A neutral third party (mediator) assists the opposing parties to reach a voluntary, negotiated resolution of a dispute. The decision to mediate is completely voluntary for the parties involved.

Mediation provides the parties an opportunity to discuss the issues, to discover and clear up any misunderstandings, determine the underlying interests or concerns, find areas of agreement and ultimately, to incorporate those areas of agreement into resolutions of settlement.

A Mediator does not impose a decision on the parties, but instead helps the parties agree on a mutually acceptable resolution. The mediation process is strictly confidential, and information disclosed during the mediation will not be revealed to anyone. A Mediator need not be a lawyer, and in some cases non-lawyer Mediators are better educated in mediation than their legal counterparts.

Advantages of Mediation

Fair and Neutral:
Parties have an equal say in the process and decide settlement terms, not the Mediator. There is no determination of guilt or innocence in the process.

Easier on the Nerves:
Because Mediation is less formal or adversarial, mediation is far less stressful than litigation.

Saves Time and Money:
Because Mediation is less complicated than the litigation process, mediation is quicker and with far less associated costs.

Confidential:
All parties agree to a confidentiality agreement so information disclosed during Mediation will not be revealed to anyone.

Avoids Costly Litigation:
Lengthy litigation CAN be avoided and avoids the uncertainty of judicial outcome.

Fosters Cooperation:
Mediation fosters a collaborative, problem-solving approach to disputes and avoids the polarizing effects of litigation. After Mediation the parties can continue normally in a positive relationship without the lingering negative affects that usually results from other adversarial processes.

Improves Communication:
Mediation provides a neutral and confidential setting where both parties can openly discuss their views on the underlying dispute. Mediators are trained in communicative techniques and skills, and enhanced communication leads to mutually satisfactory resolutions.

Discover the Real Issues in a Dispute:
Because the parties share information, this can lead to a better understanding of the ALL issues.

Design your own Solution:
A Mediator is a neutral third party that is fully trained and skilled in various techniques for assisting the parties in reaching a voluntary, mutually beneficial resolution.

More than just legal Issues:
Mediation restores relationships and can resolve ALL issues important to the parties, not just the underlying legal dispute.

Everyone Wins:
Independent surveys show that up to 96% of all those who have used Mediation would use it again.

  Sat, 01 Jan 2005 21:38:44 +0100
  • Where there's hatred there is no forgiveness;

  • Where there's hunger there are no ears to listen;

  • Where there's injustice there is no incentive to be reasonable;

  • Where there's inequality, no tolerance can be found;

  • I was reading a story in the New York Times about a discussion by former Secretary of State James A. Baker III and what Israel should do "upon the election of a Palestinian negotiating partner" and how America can exert pressure on Israel to facilitate peace.

    After reading some of the negative editorial comments I got to thinking about the state of the world and if there ever will be peace on Earth. So I came up with these truisms which I may add to over time. They are a sad reflection of why we cannot find peace in our world.

    Unfortunately when it comes to human nature the laws of physics do not always prevail. For every negative action there is almost always an equally contrary reaction. But somewhere along the line someone has to find the character to stand up and break the cycle.

    As a Mediator and specialist in Conflict Resolution, I understand that concessions have to be made on either side if a dispute is to be resolved. But I suppose that is too reasonable a notion for some.

      Fri, 31 Dec 2004 23:35:44 +0100

    The Court was Right to Heed the Advice of European Mediators

    The Ukraine's Supreme Court made a courageous decision calling for a second runoff election by Dec. 26. Now all parties should let Ukrainians make their choice fairly. That is especially incumbent on President Vladimir Putin of Russia, who, apparently forgetting that he's no longer in the K.G.B., has been trying to ram last month's fraudulent election results down the country's throat. The two-week dispute has raised tensions to a boiling point in the divided country, and any new provocation could lead to violence and irrevocable division.

    The Ukrainian government said it would abide by the decision of the 18-member court. But President Leonid Kuchma had hoped that the court would order entirely new elections, enabling him to dump his badly tainted candidate, Prime Minister Viktor Yanukovich, and force the opposition to run someone other than its popular leader, Viktor Yushchenko. The court however heeded the advice of European mediators and scheduled a rerun, and quickly, to keep passions from getting out of control.

    One of the most heartening aspects of the court's decision was that a Ukrainian institution was deciding the future of Ukraine. That was especially notable after a crude attempt by Mr. Putin a day earlier to lean on the court by summoning Mr. Kuchma to a quick but extensively publicized meeting at a Moscow airport. Mr. Putin might have thought that these demeaning theatrics would intimidate or impress the judges. In the end it made his political failure only more obvious. More at the New York Times...

      Mon, 13 Dec 2004 23:34:34 +0100

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    This is not an easy process and it could get messy. It's kinda like trying to separate conjoined twins - but much harder. As with most jobs it ended up being a lot more work than anticipated, and on top of that Blogger keeps choking on me so your patience will be very much appreciated. This has been a public service announcement.

      Tue, 07 Dec 2004 03:03:44 +0100
    Has anybody noticed that Blogger is choking more, and more often? It's bad enough that late night posting is almost an impossibility, BUT even now during the daytime it takes forever to login or get my new post to show up!

    And page loading time - we-hell... all I can say is better grab a hot toddy, turn the telly on and hope your favorite episode of the Apprentice is showing. And if you have more than one blog you will notice these problems happen with different blogs at different times. Very inconsistent and extremely maddening!!!

    A quick check on the Blogger Status RSS channel provides cryptic messages like these:
    Update Tue, Nov 30 2004: By Jason Goldman

    "Sorry for the late notice, but Blogger will be down for about 15 minutes starting at 1:30pm (Pacific Time).

    Update: This has been completed."


    Posted on Tue, Nov 30 2004:

    "We've had to restart the databases multiple times today because of server freezes. During the freezes, users would have encountered error pages when trying to access their blogs.

    We're planning on a number of improvements this week to address this very serious situation. First, we will be pushing new code to both gather information on these freezes as well as revise some features to put less strain on the database. Second, we will be effectively doubling the number of machines used to handle the db workload. I will update status with additional information our progress toward these goals."

    Even with all these alleged "improvements" I see no such improvement. Is Google getting sloppy or is it the price to pay for popularity? Too many users, and not enough resources. Is it time to be looking elsewhere for another blogging solution?

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    Bloke Update: It took most of the day just to get this message posted!

      Tue, 07 Dec 2004 05:49:28 +0100
    It seems that N.Z. Bear (publisher of The Truth Laid Bear) agrees with the Bloke:
    "The reality is that the line between "blogger" and "journalist" -- and between "amateur" and "pro" -- is already extremely fuzzy. And if you think things are blurred now: well, just wait a little while longer, because soon enough, things are going to start to really get interesting."
    Hmmm, now this is a theme that is sounding all too familiar.
    "To the die-hard old-media types who sneer at "blogging as typing" and bloggers as pajama-clad losers, then, we can quite simply say: laugh while you can. Time is not your friend, because before long, people like us will have your jobs -- and people like you will be a fading memory, shuffled away to the same journalistic dustbin as and black-and-white photos on the front page of the Times."
    Well... thanks for agreeing with the Bloke Mr. Truth Laid Bear, but I thought I should take this opportunity to offer a suggestion. You really ought to be quoting someone new for change. Your perception of the blogosphere seems somewhat limited, and it's getting real boring listening to your small circle of friends slap each other on their collective backs.

    The truth is out there, but you have to look for it, and believe it or not the blogosphere is a lot bigger than your little clique of insta-buds. Just as the net enabled alternative views from the mainstream media, please keep in mind there are more channels available than your self-congratulatory old boys network. So might I suggest that you use the remote more often. That's why they call it surfing.

    Oh, and one more thing. You really need to find a better ratings system - that is to say based on quality - not just quantity. Makes it rather difficult for new kids on the block to get any attention, and (no kidding) you will find that some of us peeons actually have something of value to say.

    You see, the old boys may be longer established in the blogosphere (and their numbers reflect that fact), but just because they may get the bigger hits doesn’t necessarily mean they are better or 'higher beings' as you like to put it. There's a lot of talent out there that only need a chance to be heard. Food for thought, and something to think about.

      Mon, 29 Nov 2004 08:13:21 +0100
    Four Catholic mothers are sitting around bragging about their sons, each of whom is a priest. First mother says, "My son is a monsignor, and when he walks in the room, people greet him 'Good morning, Monsignor.'"

    Second mother says, "Well, my son is a Bishop, and people greet him 'Good morning, your Grace.'"

    Third mother says, "Well, my son is a Cardinal, and people greet him 'Good morning, your Eminence.'"

    The fourth mother pauses, and finally says, "My son is six feet, ten inches tall and is 300 pounds of pure muscle. When he walks in the room, people greet him 'Oh, My God!'"

      Sun, 28 Nov 2004 02:57:26 +0100

    And Call me in the Morning


    A spoonful of sugar really does make the medicine go down. But what if your pills came in the form of chocolate bonbons? It may be time to put the sugar bowl away because cough remedies have never tasted so sweet. A recent study reports that theobromine, found in chocolate, is actually more effective than codeine when it comes to easing coughs.

    That's good news for chocolate lovers the world over. Now you're free to eat those truffles in plain view and if anyone challenges your right to the Whitman's Sampler, just tell them it's doctor's orders. While chocolate (+17%) has been banned from many diets, it hasn't been banished from search where it's always a favorite. The folks with the fewest waistline problems and the highest average metabolism (the 18-and-under crowd) provide 40% of overall searches.

    The rest of us are showing signs of restraint, though interest in theobromine has soared among those 35 and up. After all, the weather's getting colder, and those nasty bugs are going around the office. If you find yourself with a cough that you can't kick, consider raiding your kids' Halloween candy stash. Or try one of these choco-licious search sensations sure to tickle your taste buds and soothe that cough. Source: Buzz Index